Saturday, September 7, 2019

Family Dinners




Family Dinner - Before I lost my job eating out was a weekly occurrence.
Now we are reconnecting over our own dining room table. The premise is the same. 


This is how we stay connected. It's easier to talk about life when we are
sharing a meal together. Part of Thomas Jefferson Education style is taking
time to go out with each of your children. I have time for each of them at least
biweekly as well as specific family dinner time weekly.


 As the kids get older, I notice it is easy for things to be fragmented.


If we are eating out,  after everyone orders, and while we wait for food,
we put down our phones and we share something about our week.


At home after everyone is seated with their plates, we go around and share.
Easy.  Some days, quite honestly the kids are NOT into it... I have learned
to let it go... forced activities are not what homeschooling and connecting
are about. I just try again next time. If the pattern continues I need to dig
deeper and figure out why. I never let it go more than twice... and they know it :-) 


How do you stay connected to your older schooled / homeschooled kids?
Feel free to comment below.

Thursday, September 5, 2019

Back to School Anxiety - not with homeschooling!



Image result for back to school sign
The Facebook posts are just about done. I sincerely LOVE to see everyone's pictures, and I do post my own. Occasionally I see things that *bother* me... I'm not sure if they bother the mother as much as they bother me. Not everyone is in a position to homeschool. I understand that.

To protect the identity of the poster I won't use names... But a student was starting Kindergarten this year. That makes the child 5 years old. The school has a rule that the parents are not allowed to accompany the child to the classroom. WHAT THE WHAT? I cried dropping off my High School Senior! I didn't walk her to class, but I still cried!


"They didn’t allow the kinder parents to walk the kids to their classes today, so we took our pictures at home."

This Mom was just posting...she didn't seem upset, and for her - that's ok... I'm FREAKING OUT.
Not allow the PRIMARY EDUCATOR to walk THEIR CHILD to the classroom - what are they
HIDING - the CHOKIE, like in Matilda?

In Catholic Education we view parents as the primary educators. I spent 15 years establishing
PARTNERSHIPS with parents. I would never DREAM of not allowing them in my classroom.
In homeschooling I'm freaking out on a whole different level. HOW DARE YOU TELL ME
I CAN'T WALK MY CHILD TO THE CLASSROOM. WATCH ME. I think I would have pulled my
child out of school right then if that was my first experience. Cold prickly.

I did my student teaching in Kindergarten. At the time I thought it was God's sick joke.
It was a year-round school so I had to go through the "first day" of Kindergarten with 2 sets
of 5-year olds. My experience was all 9 and 10 year olds. I was WAY out of my element.
I clearly recall the teacher gently prying a student out of his mother's arms.
There was all sorts of crying, but the teacher assured both the student and the parent
everything would be okay. He really handled the situation with kindness.
(But I think this was planting seeds I didn't know about. I was engaged, but not yet married,
no children of my own.)

We also had a student who didn't talk. He was painfully shy. Zachery. I was in love with this boy. He would raise his hand and lose his nerve, but I never made him feel like he was wrong, or bad, or that there was anything wrong with him - because there wasn't. The day he answered... It took all my composure not to OVERREACT and throw a FREAKING PARTY. Students like Zachary kept me teaching. The thank you bookmark he gave me was under the glass on my desk until the day I left teaching.

Another friend - an adult posted to Facebook that she wasn't feeling well. She had no idea why until her husband reminded her the local schools started the next day. She was picking up the anxiety and feelings of the children and people everywhere starting school the next day. All that NEGATIVE ENERGY in the AIR! She herself said she HATED school and was glad to not be a kid anymore. Imagine that as an ADULT she still got Back to School Anxiety! That's like PTSD! 

When I was the Student Support Coordinator for my school I was out on the first day to greet as may students as possible. For 4 years I was the main "Administrator" visible that first day, as the principal never arrived before 8 am (After school started at 7:50 am). I answered questions, posed for pictures, passed out candy and did whatever it took to spread kindness. Parents were welcomed inside our Kindergarten room and down to the other classrooms - sometimes it lasted a week. It is school, we had to cut it off because when you drop your children off at school, you leave your rights as a parent at the curb... I was always so torn between 2 worlds.

Homeschooling is a BLESSING. To have your children with you in an environment conducive to learning and surrounded by love and kindness where the rules make sense and fit the family. If you are homeschooling, thinking about homeschooling or mildly interested in possibly homeschooling when the moon is blue... I'd love to talk to you and help you! Contact me!



Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Change of Grade Day 2019


Every year since the kids about 2009 we have a tradition of starting out our first day of school with a field trip. Homeschooling provides us certain privileges. First day field trip is definitely one of them! They way we are able to make it work as a family is by using Labor Day weekend.... Sigh, it does make things crowded and sometimes a little more expensive, but it is WORTH IT to have all 5 of us together for the 1st day of school. Dads often get "left out" of the home school picture because they have the all important task of going to work! Many Dads are off weekends or have the extra day due to Labor Day Monday - ours always does.  Find what works for you and fashion your first day of school around that. 

Douglas' first day of school will "technically" be Tuesday, September 3rd. Lauren is in College and Megan a Senior at a local high school. Both have already had their first days and no longer fall under my homeschool umbrella. Sometimes I leave them out of things, not to be mean, but they made a choice to attend public school and with that sacrifice the benefits of homeschooling. But not in these back to school traditions. 

This is the second year in a row we went to Disneyland as our "Change of Grade Day" field trip. That's what we call it. We actually went to California Adventure last year. You can read about it HERE

It just made sense to repeat the field trip this year as we did renew the passes as our "fun money" choice and we don't exactly have a money tree in the back yard. After our SUPER trip to Yosemite this summer the Vacation Fund is depleted. 


Another Great tradition we have is the Back to School Fairy - she doesn't bring as much as she used to... no one needs crayons, markers, scissors and the like anymore... but she does try to bring practical items the kids can use like glue sticks and white out tape. Who doesn't need a new spiral notebook? (Resides they were 25 cents at Walmart!) Pencils (hidden), Post it notes and a fun back pack clip from the Target Dollar spot finish up the loot for the year. Lauren and Douglas got new backpacks as well. Megan ended up with 2 last year so she was good. 




Want to see what the Back to school Fairy Brought way back in 2009? How about where we went on our First Day Field Trip? The sweet memories are available HERE


Then if you want to fast forward to 2015 - boy did the Bugs GROW. Check out that post HERE

Feel free to share your Back-to-Homeschool traditions in the comments below!