What is a Homeschool Mindset Mentor?

 Normally when people ask me, What do you do all day, I give them a funny look. I'm not just home watching Netflix all day. 

When my four-year-old nephew asked, he got a straight answer. So my nephew came to visit the other day. He is in love with my backyard squirrels.

He came over just so he could feed them their peanuts. In order to get to the backyard, we have to pass through. My office, so he sees my computer. The paper piles. Yeah. My desk is not Pinterest-worthy. And he asks, What do you do with all that, Aunt Christy? 

Here's how I explained homeschool mindset mentoring to a four-year-old.

Some kids like you and your sisters, they go to a school, a building down the street with teachers and lots of other kids, and then there are other kids like your cousins who do school at home.

I help families run their school when school is inside their house.

Being four my nephew was really impressed. Maybe you are too.

 Hey friend, I'm Christy, your favorite homeschool mindset mentor. I'm here to help you have the home school of your dreams without stress, feelings of overwhelm and "comparisonitis". I hope you subscribe to the blog, or find me on social media:

FACEBOOK

INSTAGRAM

TIKTOK

You can also book a FREE 30-minute onboarding call with me to see if homeschool mindset mentoring is a good fit for you! Click the image below to book your call! 

My Homeschool Do Over

 

If I could homeschool all over again, I'd use that 2020 vision that hindsight gives us.

I would not focus on curriculum. 

I would not focus on homeschool methods.

I wouldn't even focus on the skills I was teaching my children if I had it to do over.

I would take a deep dive into my core reason for homeschooling. I would use that reason to keep me steadfast on my journey. 

This core reason, that ultimate thing that pushed you to homeschool, it tells you what you value in education the most.

If I could homeschool over I would only focus on THAT, my REASON for homeschooling. 

I hope you find this bit of homeschool mindset advice helpful. 

Until next time, 

Christy

How do you feel about those Christmas Decorations in October?

 

Strolling through Hobby Lobby I actually get excited as soon as the fall decorations are out. I know it won't be long until they put the spring stuff on clearance and MAKE ROOM for Christmas. 

But as homeschoolers, who already have a to-do-list 3 miles long, seeing Christmas Decorations can be overwhelming! 

I want to help you reduce the stress and overwhelm surrounding the holiday season!  Let's get your homeschool ready for the most wonderful time of the. 

Seeing those decorations, have you thinking things like, "I have so much to do", but change that mindset.

Choose a different thought and think about all the wonderful things you want to do.

In my homeschool, we start homeschooling through the holidays in October. You don't have to attend every party, put the Christmas tree up the weekend after Thanksgiving and make a hundred handmade gifts. But if you want to, that's a whole different mindset.

Choose the activities you're going to use as you homeschool through the holiday. And put them on your calendar. 

Now, if you're looking for simple, fun activities, I've got you covered. 

Head over to Happy Hive Homeschooling and subscribe to my email newsletter. This resource is available to subscribers in our exclusive resource library.

But before you go do that, make sure you FOLLOW ME.

 I have more expert tips for homeschooling through the holiday.

Until next time, 

Christy

 

Driver's Permit

I took Lauren to get her driver's permit yesterday. 1 month after her 18th birthday.

Times sure are different! I couldn't WAIT to be 16 and get my permit. I practically

had to drag my sweet girl to the DMV. For hair color, Lauren put: OTHER. e-gads!

Was that even an option in the 80's? She also registered for the opposite political

party from her father and I. You mean we taught her how to think for herself? 

The whole experience was rather smooth, and contrary to the typical DMV reputation,

Lauren was treated with kindness and respect. The woman even explained how Lauren

can upgrade to the REAL ID after taking her behind the wheel test. It's not as scary

as it seems! 

Because she is 18, she has a 36 question test to take, and she can miss 6.

 83% and my Bug will be behind the wheel. Does this count as Homeschooling again?

One key piece of information that is missing is how long she must practice before she

can take the behind the wheel test... I suppose her teacher, Anthony, will have to

determine that. 

Stay off the roads... There is a pink haired doodle bug out there! 

I convinced her to start the truck... that's as far as today's lesson got! Somehow

I am ready for this phase of my firstborn growing up, I didn’t even cry! 

My Mom always told me it was her job to give us (my 2 brothers and I) roots and wings.

She is absolutely correct. Lauren is ready for these wings. I believe Homeschooling gave her the necessary roots!

Orb Weaver Spider Sightings!

This spider is fascinating to all of us in the family on some level. Our homeschool background has taught us to be observant of nature. When Megan and I first noticed one of these webs at the local market early one morning we took the time to examine it’s web and take pictures. 

A few days later God blessed us with our very own in the front yard. We watched it, checked it out up close and researched if it was poisonous. Each of us was anxious to see if the web would still be intact in the morning... it was not, and “spiderman” was gone. 

He re-appeared the next night - and perhaps a second one even made a web further down the lawn on the tree. We are now experiencing very strong winds and are concerned “spiderman” may have blown away. 

I guess we will wait and see... If my children were little I know this would have launched into a week long journey into the study of spiders, but I will take what I can get as my homeschooling transforms. The conversations, jokes and observations have been a great way to slow down our busy pace. 

What have you been observing lately? Feel free to share in the comments.

There are some really great pictures of Orb- Weavers on this website: https://www.insectidentification.org/insect-description.asp?identification=Arboreal-Orb-Weaver

Family Dinners

Family Dinner - Before I lost my job eating out was a weekly occurrence.

Now we are reconnecting over our own dining room table. The premise is the same. 

This is how we stay connected. It's easier to talk about life when we are

sharing a meal together. Part of Thomas Jefferson Education style is taking

time to go out with each of your children. I have time for each of them at least

biweekly as well as specific family dinner time weekly.

 As the kids get older, I notice it is easy for things to be fragmented.

If we are eating out,  after everyone orders, and while we wait for food,

we put down our phones and we share something about our week.

At home after everyone is seated with their plates, we go around and share.

Easy.  Some days, quite honestly the kids are NOT into it... I have learned

to let it go... forced activities are not what homeschooling and connecting

are about. I just try again next time. If the pattern continues I need to dig

deeper and figure out why. I never let it go more than twice... and they know it :-) 

How do you stay connected to your older schooled / homeschooled kids?

Feel free to comment below.

Back to School Anxiety - not with homeschooling!

The Facebook posts are just about done. I sincerely LOVE to see everyone's pictures, and I do post my own. Occasionally I see things that *bother* me... I'm not sure if they bother the mother as much as they bother me. Not everyone is in a position to homeschool. I understand that.

To protect the identity of the poster I won't use names... But a student was starting Kindergarten this year. That makes the child 5 years old. The school has a rule that the parents are not allowed to accompany the child to the classroom. WHAT THE WHAT? I cried dropping off my High School Senior! I didn't walk her to class, but I still cried!

"They didn’t allow the kinder parents to walk the kids to their classes today, so we took our pictures at home."

This Mom was just posting...she didn't seem upset, and for her - that's ok... I'm FREAKING OUT.
Not allow the PRIMARY EDUCATOR to walk THEIR CHILD to the classroom - what are they
HIDING - the CHOKIE, like in Matilda?

In Catholic Education we view parents as the primary educators. I spent 15 years establishing
PARTNERSHIPS with parents. I would never DREAM of not allowing them in my classroom.
In homeschooling I'm freaking out on a whole different level. HOW DARE YOU TELL ME
I CAN'T WALK MY CHILD TO THE CLASSROOM. WATCH ME. I think I would have pulled my
child out of school right then if that was my first experience. Cold prickly.

I did my student teaching in Kindergarten. At the time I thought it was God's sick joke.
It was a year-round school so I had to go through the "first day" of Kindergarten with 2 sets
of 5-year olds. My experience was all 9 and 10 year olds. I was WAY out of my element.
I clearly recall the teacher gently prying a student out of his mother's arms.
There was all sorts of crying, but the teacher assured both the student and the parent
everything would be okay. He really handled the situation with kindness.
(But I think this was planting seeds I didn't know about. I was engaged, but not yet married,
no children of my own.)

We also had a student who didn't talk. He was painfully shy. Zachery. I was in love with this boy. He would raise his hand and lose his nerve, but I never made him feel like he was wrong, or bad, or that there was anything wrong with him - because there wasn't. The day he answered... It took all my composure not to OVERREACT and throw a FREAKING PARTY. Students like Zachary kept me teaching. The thank you bookmark he gave me was under the glass on my desk until the day I left teaching.

Another friend - an adult posted to Facebook that she wasn't feeling well. She had no idea why until her husband reminded her the local schools started the next day. She was picking up the anxiety and feelings of the children and people everywhere starting school the next day. All that NEGATIVE ENERGY in the AIR! She herself said she HATED school and was glad to not be a kid anymore. Imagine that as an ADULT she still got Back to School Anxiety! That's like PTSD! 

When I was the Student Support Coordinator for my school I was out on the first day to greet as may students as possible. For 4 years I was the main "Administrator" visible that first day, as the principal never arrived before 8 am (After school started at 7:50 am). I answered questions, posed for pictures, passed out candy and did whatever it took to spread kindness. Parents were welcomed inside our Kindergarten room and down to the other classrooms - sometimes it lasted a week. It is school, we had to cut it off because when you drop your children off at school, you leave your rights as a parent at the curb... I was always so torn between 2 worlds.

Homeschooling is a BLESSING. To have your children with you in an environment conducive to learning and surrounded by love and kindness where the rules make sense and fit the family. If you are homeschooling, thinking about homeschooling or mildly interested in possibly homeschooling when the moon is blue... I'd love to talk to you and help you! Contact me!

Change of Grade Day 2019

Every year since the kids about 2009 we have a tradition of starting out our first day of school with a field trip. Homeschooling provides us certain privileges. First day field trip is definitely one of them! They way we are able to make it work as a family is by using Labor Day weekend.... Sigh, it does make things crowded and sometimes a little more expensive, but it is WORTH IT to have all 5 of us together for the 1st day of school. Dads often get "left out" of the home school picture because they have the all important task of going to work! Many Dads are off weekends or have the extra day due to Labor Day Monday - ours always does.  Find what works for you and fashion your first day of school around that. 

Douglas' first day of school will "technically" be Tuesday, September 3rd. Lauren is in College and Megan a Senior at a local high school. Both have already had their first days and no longer fall under my homeschool umbrella. Sometimes I leave them out of things, not to be mean, but they made a choice to attend public school and with that sacrifice the benefits of homeschooling. But not in these back to school traditions. 

This is the second year in a row we went to Disneyland as our "Change of Grade Day" field trip. That's what we call it. We actually went to California Adventure last year. You can read about it HERE

It just made sense to repeat the field trip this year as we did renew the passes as our "fun money" choice and we don't exactly have a money tree in the back yard. After our SUPER trip to Yosemite this summer the Vacation Fund is depleted. 

Another Great tradition we have is the Back to School Fairy - she doesn't bring as much as she used to... no one needs crayons, markers, scissors and the like anymore... but she does try to bring practical items the kids can use like glue sticks and white out tape. Who doesn't need a new spiral notebook? (Resides they were 25 cents at Walmart!) Pencils (hidden), Post it notes and a fun back pack clip from the Target Dollar spot finish up the loot for the year. Lauren and Douglas got new backpacks as well. Megan ended up with 2 last year so she was good. 

Want to see what the Back to school Fairy Brought way back in 2009? How about where we went on our First Day Field Trip? The sweet memories are available HERE


Then if you want to fast forward to 2015 - boy did the Bugs GROW. Check out that post HERE

Feel free to share your Back-to-Homeschool traditions in the comments below!

My favorite thing about homeschooling!

Please note - this post may contain affiliate links. What that means is if you click that link and shop on Amazon (even if you don't buy the product I'm telling you about) I may earn a % of the sale. This helps me run my household, my homeschool, and my scrapbook business. You don't pay anymore than the regular price you normally would - so shop away! THANKS! If you want to learn more about the other facets of my life - check out my other blogs!

I really don't have just ONE favorite thing about homeschooling...but if I COULD pinpoint it - it has to be that EVERYTHING is learning. I have taught my children to see learning in everything, everywhere we go. This isn't necessarily unique to homeschooling, I bet your family does it as well. Do you stop to inspect a spider web? Do toys get purchased because they are educational as well as entertaining. These are just a few things that have permeated our homeschool. I also told my children that we had school EVERYDAY. There was no such thing as a day off school, because whatever it was we were doing, there was learning involved. My kids have honestly never asked to "skip" school. I LOVE that! So a few nights ago we were in Hobby Lobby and the kids saw this magnetic sand timer. Good Heavens the world stopped spinning. I hadn't seen this much excitement since Santa brought them their first Perplexus. So needless to say, the magnetic sand timer came home with us thanks to a 50% off sale. Now they are making different piles. Using magnets outside the glass to move the sand... um - HELLO LEARNING, EXPERIMENTATION AND COMMUNICATION! This is between 2 kids who "claim" they are not homeschooled any longer and 1 who is content with his homeschool status. I call this a win. And it looks really cool above the fireplace. What is YOUR favorite thing about homeschooling? Feel free to comment below.

A Graduate

I really don't like Graduation ceremonies. But this was my own child, I couldn't exactly miss it. 

I've long ago come to terms with her decision to attend a real school. I laid my foundation.

I did my best. I taught her how to make decisions and be independent. What did I expect to

happen? 

And in hindsight she excelled and thrived. But I knew, without a shadow of a doubt that I made

the right decision when my oldest bug said on her graduation day she was "so very happy

because she never thought she would get to graduate from a real school".

Her face and the tone of voice were enough. I home schooled. She decided when the time

was right to take learning into her own hands. I think that is TRULY what homeschooling is all

about. It is not about controlling your child. It is not about what is best for ME, the mom. It is

about what is best for each individual child. (The girls went to school, and the boy remains

home, happy to be homeschooled.)

This weekend she will attend orientation for college. THANK GOD - and as my friend Bri says

(with no blasphemous intent) - ALL the baby Jesus'

- She is staying HOME! I can still influence her, educate her and guide her as she

grows and develops, because LEARNING NEVER ENDS

so I like to believe I'm still homeschooling my College Freshman.

Please don't burst my bubble!

When do you know this homeschool stuff Works?

I was able to sit in on an interview my son participated in the other day. I know he is my son,

so my opinion is somewhat biased, but I was quite impressed with how he handled himself. 

You see, my youngest has been affectionately called “the hermit”. He prefers to be at home.

He doesn't participate in nearly as many outside activities as his sisters do. He has little

patience for the misbehavior and disrespect of his same age peers and therefore chooses

to isolate. 

Both Girls have attended school and school related activities for 3 years, not Douglas.

When Douglas was offered a seat in the private school I worked for to “test” what it was

like to go to school. He politely declined. His sisters had been attending in some way for

3 years and LOVED it. It was the “end” of their homeschool life and ultimately a good thing.

You can read more about that here. 

As a homeschool mother, this “hermit life” worries me. He is after all going to have to leave

the house to go to college, and eventually get a job. My youngest needs to learn how to

relate to others and accept all personality styles. He has one good friend that visits regularly,

and we hang out with a passel of cousins at least monthly. On top of that my “hermit” is

required to attend our Parish Confirmation classes. - He seems to be doing well here, and

this is where the interview came in. 

Lightning Bug was invited to attend the 2nd year Confirmation retreat as a “team member”

- actually he volunteered to do it because he enjoyed his experience on HIS 2nd year retreat

so much.  WHAT??? My hermit wants to leave the house? He wants to participate in

something??? After YEARS of begging him to take classes - robotics, lego, anything!!!!

Finally a spark! 

Part of the process is to participate in an interview, and parents are welcome to attend.

I didn’t intend to sit in and eavesdrop on the entire process, it just happened that way, and

now I’m glad. Lightning Bug handled each question with a maturity I didn’t know he

possessed.

He was self-assured and honest with each question asked even though he just met the

gentleman conducting the interview. As a Mother of a homeschooled-hermit, I could not 

be more proud. These are the moments when you know without a doubt what you are doing

works and you are not ruining your child.

Everyone learns differently and kids KNOW what they need. My Lightning Bug is ready

to go out into the world, he has found something he WANTS to do, and he is going to do

it WELL! 

Back to school time for so many....

For some it was last week, for others it is this week, for my homeschool it won't be until after Labor Day - but it is Back to School Season!

I came across this picture the other day while working on another project.

I have always cherished
this picture. The Bugs are "Walking" to school.

Sometimes when you homeschool you don't want anything to do with "school" things, and then
some people do! 

Our family embraces some of the traditional, stereotypical school stuff. Backpacks for example.
You really don't need the expense especially if you are surviving on one income. But on the other
hand, the joy of picking out a backpack is priceless indeed.

We managed in these one income years to make the backpacks last a few years. In fact I'm fairly
certain my now 16 year old bug has his Ben 10 backpack!

They experience far less wear and tear by NOT going to school every day. 

Another thing the kids wanted to do was "walk to school". What an awesome concept!
We put on our backpacks, or sometimes took the buddies in their strollers,
and off we went around the block. We had a community mail box, so I would
get the mail from the day before and its even exercise! 

What "school" activities do you incorporate into your homeschool? Fell free to comment!

You not Them - Great Homeschool Concept

Please note - this post may contain affiliate links. What that means is if you click that link and shop on Amazon or other website (even if you don't buy the product I'm telling you about) I may earn a % of the sale. This helps me run my household, my homeschool, and my scrapbook business. You don't pay anymore than the regular price you normally would - so shop away! THANKS! If you want to learn more about the other facets of my life - check out my other blogs!

"You Not Them"

This is a concept of homeschooling I learned from Oliver DeMille who is the author and founder of the homeschool movement called: A THOMAS JEFFERSON EDUCATION

 

I'm not going to get into all of it in this post, but, had I been able to stay home full time and home school, it was my guiding philosophy. 

This concept of "You, Not Them" on a basic level said I needed to focus on my education before the kids. They need to see me learning. 

As I grow as a life long learner I am realizing more and more how true this is. My children are basically grown and responsible for their own schooling. If you are a regular reader you know my older 2 bugs chose to attend high school a year ago and my youngest bug is homeschooled, but uses an online service (time 4 learning) I have very little to do with their schooling. Not the way I wanted it, but it is what it is. 

Back to me, not them... My rotator cuff repair surgery was a chance to focus on myself. It sounds selfish, but I can't take care of my family if I don't take care of myself. I think God was sending me a message. 

One of the books I have been wanting to read is Pride and Prejudice. Don't get excited. I cheated. I watched the mini series on Netflix. It was fantastic. I'm so thankful I had time to reset my life and my priorities.